Welcome to week 7’s family meeting! This agenda is to help you organize your meeting and family practice session.  It includes skills to practice from the week’s lessons, plus SFP activities each person did during the week. You can print this agenda, or have it on a phone, tablet, etc. to look at during the meeting.

Family meeting rules:
  1. Use an agenda.
  2. One person talks at a time.
  3. Everyone gets a chance to talk, if they want to.
  4. No one puts anyone down.
  5. Keep it short and sweet!

Each week, during your Learn & Earn Lessons, each family member is asked to share ideas. The Family Meeting is a time to review those ideas.

At every meeting:

  • Compliments: Say something you like about each person
  • Calendar: List activities or events each person has scheduled for the upcoming week
  • Past Business: Discuss your SFP activities progress and rewards
  • New Business: Discuss current SFP goals and practice skills
  • Value Message: Share pro-social family beliefs
  • Have Fun! Games and treats

Power Phrase:

Each of us can become a peacemaker by re-programming our anger habits with pro-social behaviors.

Agenda Item #1: Dealing with Conflict

Review

Face Up to Your Feelings. This week your kids practiced understanding emotions, using a tool we call “Face Up To Your Feelings.” Use this activity to help your child understand and label their emotions and express them in pro-social ways. Research shows kids do better when parents regularly use emotion coaching with them. They have better physical health, better grades, fewer behavior problems, and are more emotionally resilient than children whose parents don’t use the skill.

Managing Stress:  By now you have learned about, and practiced, various Mindfulness Exercises. Don’t forget to try them all on the My Mindfulness page. (Bonus: the more you practice, the more tickets you earn for upgrading your home base!)

Directions

Our Dealing with Conflict Agreement. Conflict arises when family members disagree on how things should be done in a family, or are hurt or offended by how they are treated. This agreement is about handling disagreements without becoming angry or insulting one another.

Parents had a chance to sign during the lesson, but kids have not yet seen this. Please discuss the agreement. Anyone that has not yet signed can sign now!

Dealing with Conflict Agreement

  • WE AGREE that what we want most long term for our family is to have warm and loving relationships.
  • WE COMMIT to not say or do anything that would harm our goal of a happy family.
  • WE AGREE that when we have a disagreement or concern and we begin to feel angry or upset over it, we will choose a specific time to sit down together and discuss it.
  • WE AGREE to adopt the Strengthening Families Program attitudes of respect, kindness, generosity, patience, and peace in dealing with one another.
  • WE will agree to a place for talk and discuss the best times for resolving conflicts.
  • WE will discuss what tools we will use to solve conflicts, such as:
  • 1. Problem Solving Activity
  • 2. Win-Win Negotiation Activity
  • 3. Safe and Cool Conversations
  • 4. Three Easy Communication Skills
  • 5. The Listening Stick
  • 6. Banish Communication Boulders

Signed by:

Add Your Family's Signatures!

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Agenda Item #2: Taming the Anger Monster

Review

Taming the Anger Monster Tracking Activity. Both parents and kids had a chance to try out the Anger Monster Tracking Activity. This anger tracking form is a tool you can use to track what makes you angry and how you respond. Evaluate yourself at the end of each day for at least a month to establish new patterns of awareness and improved responses to stress and anger. It really works! Rather than reviewing your anger responses as a group, discuss how you will use this tool, and what you learned about managing anger in your lesson. Here is what the tool asks you to track:

Cause: What was the trigger that caused your anger?
Angry thoughts: What were your Hot Thoughts you told yourself that made the anger worse?
Body Reaction: How did your body feel?
Flushed face; Tight throat; Clenched hands; Clenched teeth; Sweaty hands; Tight chest; Racing heart; Stomach pain; Felt like crying ;Other
Reducers: What reducers did you try?
Calming breaths; Counting backwards; Calm, pleasant imaging; Conscious muscle relaxing; Projecting and reflecting
Reminder: What words did you think to calm your angry thoughts?
Angry Response: What was your angry response?
Calm Response: What is a better response for next time?

Directions

Did you track your feelings this week? Did it make you feel better to use these skills to help tame your anger? Did you notice any differences in your family this week? 

BONUS ACTIVITY: Stepping Out of Anger

In lesson 7 you learned about anger responses and methods for reducing anger. We have included the Stepping Out of Anger Activity as a bonus activity, to be done if you have time in today’s family meeting.

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